A lot of the time I run into people who have a burning desire to grow and contribute but for whatever reason have not been able to break free and reach their full potential. In my experience, this type of unconscious sabotage is what prevents people from reaching their full successful self.

This pattern could and probably will play itself out in every facet of your life on a continuous basis, becoming aware of your own personal power and your ability to make positive changes and advancements, not only in your own life but the lives of others and the world in general and not having begun doing it yet is generally how this might begin to show up.

Another and slightly more common example of how this might show up for most people is that at some point in their life they have ‘settled’ for someone who was not really what they wanted in the relationship sector of their life. As humans, we do this because of the dislike and/or fear of being ‘alone’. We would rather be in a relationship with an obviously unsuitable partner than spend our lives as what we perceive to be ‘alone’. When we do this we are ‘settling’. When we choose to stay in an unfixable relationship or situation, at some point the inevitable moment of ‘truth’ comes to light. Your intuition and inner wisdom always knows what is right for you, and when you go against your own inner-truths eventually something has got to give somewhere. This is a prominent and more popular example of what I am describing.

Whether you settle for less than you want in any area of your life, the knowledge that you have compromised your own intuitive truth and inner-knowing will consciously or unconsciously sabotage your choice. It will not feel comfortable to your soul, and this will eventually force change.

Your soul will not allow you to live with the pain of self-betrayal and eventually, an outlet for that pain will be found. This may manifest in the form of an addiction, an unsuitable partner choice, depression, resentment … any number of negative emotion and/or behaviour.

This negative behaviour is a sign that the psyche is deliberately trying to get your attention in order to break out of the situation. The conscious-self may feel too overwhelmed, ‘stuck’ or too frightened to take charge of the situation directly, so you covertly take these steps through displays and feelings of anger, becoming depressed or taking your frustrations out through addictions of all kinds. It is a very loud indicator that a choice you have made, or choices that you are currently making, do not reflect your true soul’s desire and you have settled for less than what you truly desire, want or need.

Always getting exactly what you want is impossible of course, so settling for something less than what you truly want is something that can not be avoided. It is how you deal with them that counts. Each choice that you make has an effect on your life and every facet of it.

So how can we make choices that reflect our inner guidance and are not self-sabotaging?

When making choices based upon the premise of ‘ I may want to do this – but I know I need to do that’ you are able to discern your choice based upon your true value system that is in harmony with your true self. Choosing what you know resonates with your soul and such an approach to your life may not necessarily make your decisions easier, but wisdom and inner clarity make navigating your life a much more fulfilling experience.